A month ago I was talking to a friend and the conversation became more sexual till we started to share our kinks. To sum up I told her about chastity, that I have 2 cages and that I cage my self. I saw her very into it, she asked me for some resourses to read. These days she continuously ask me about it, if I am locked, sometimes even jokes about it. I have a lockbox with the emergency key always in my car, and she knows the code, the other key I have it in my house. Yesterday I told her that I had 2 weeks without cumming and that I am having trouble not to unlock and she offered to have the other key. She told me that if there is an emergency she'll give me the code or send me the key. What should I do? We do not have anything affectionate, or sexual besides this dinamic. I do se her atractive, don't know if she feels the same. Should I just go with it and enjoy the time, or should I try something?
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I think it sounds very exciting. If you have absolute trust in each other, I would say go for it.
Does she want to see the device, or lock you herself?
Does she want to see the device, or lock you herself?
It is all a question of trust. If you trust her, I see no reason why not.
Never self locked, always had my wife as my kh. If you have a chance to have someone take keys who's willing and trustworthy why not go for it. Only thing I see could be problematic is all your attention will be focused on her and if she is ready, realizes that.
I'd do it, but I'd keep the spare key. Keep it at home, or at work, or somewhere else. She can have the "primary" key, but while you're still in the 'this might be fun, lets see where this goes' stage I would make sure I was covered in case of emergency, etc.
Holding a spare to start is good idea. Let's not start with what's real and what's not. If you're caged it's real.
I think that you need an emergency key with you 24/7. Dangerous...
I agree. But you can keep an extra key in a box, sealed. You can use it in emergency case...
To response
1. I'm from an Hispanic speaking country, so my English is not great.
2. We know chastity is not mainstream even less in my country, that's why I think she was so interested.
3. I have a metal cage that I purchased in Amazon with a string. 2 keys, 1 in my house ( the one that she wants) and 1 in a lockbox in my car ( she already knows the code, I don't, but if there is an emergency I'm sure she'll give it to me).
4. No, she has not seen the cage and hasn't asked to.
5. We joked about if I give her the key, she'll have the power of my masturbation or even if I go out with someone on a date.
To response some of the comments.
1. I'm from an Hispanic speaking country, so my English is not great.
2. We know chastity is not mainstream even less in my country, that's why I think she was so interested.
3. I have a metal cage that I purchased in Amazon with a string. 2 keys, 1 in my house ( the one that she wants) and 1 in a lockbox in my car ( she already knows the code, I don't, but if there is an emergency I'm sure she'll give it to me).
4. No, she has not seen the cage and hasn't asked to.
5. We joked about if I give her the key, she'll have the power of my masturbation or even if I go out with someone on a date.
It sounds interesting, I would be a bit dubious myself “it is very close to home” as the saying goes
I've known her for 8 years, became friends 4 years ago probably. She's a friend from work, so I see her almost every day.
Update:
An hour ago I gave her the key, we agree that if I need the key I'll send an Uberbike to pick the key up to her house (don't know if you have that in your country). I can only ask for the key once a week and she'll have the last word about sending the key or not. We are gonna try it this first time until Monday to see how it goes. In terms of cleaning I am able to clean my penis through the bars so I guess the is no problem with that, we'll see. I'm very excited about this, I didn't say anything else because I don't wanna give her more work.
Update:
An hour ago I gave her the key, we agree that if I need the key I'll send an Uberbike to pick the key up to her house (don't know if you have that in your country). I can only ask for the key once a week and she'll have the last word about sending the key or not. We are gonna try it this first time until Monday to see how it goes. In terms of cleaning I am able to clean my penis through the bars so I guess the is no problem with that, we'll see. I'm very excited about this, I didn't say anything else because I don't wanna give her more work.
She just sent me this, Ive never been more excited in my life. You can use Google translate
Good for you. I’m happy for you. Who knows, maybe your relationship will grow closer.
Answering other questions:
She's single but seeing someone, like early dating. She lives like 20 minutes from my house so Uberbike won't be expensive.
Update 2:
I did ask for the key, just to see if she's into it and I can say for sure she is. She told me that I wasted my opportunity It was waaay to early to ask for the key and sent me a photo of her vibrator and say goodbay. Not gonna lie, this made my penis rock hard, well my cage. Next week is Holy Week so we won't work and see each other until April 21st, I know she's gonna go on vacation so I told her that maybe she send the key and I'll return it when I see her. She just laugh and say it is up to her, and she'll think about it.
She's single but seeing someone, like early dating. She lives like 20 minutes from my house so Uberbike won't be expensive.
Update 2:
I did ask for the key, just to see if she's into it and I can say for sure she is. She told me that I wasted my opportunity It was waaay to early to ask for the key and sent me a photo of her vibrator and say goodbay. Not gonna lie, this made my penis rock hard, well my cage. Next week is Holy Week so we won't work and see each other until April 21st, I know she's gonna go on vacation so I told her that maybe she send the key and I'll return it when I see her. She just laugh and say it is up to her, and she'll think about it.
Update 3:
She said that she's gonna take the key to her girls trip, and if I'm REALLY wanting to masturbate I have to pay that Uberbike ($100 aprox.). Now I'm thinking that she is gonna tell them about the key and I don't know... I kind of like the idea. Seems like it'll be a tough week.
She said that she's gonna take the key to her girls trip, and if I'm REALLY wanting to masturbate I have to pay that Uberbike ($100 aprox.). Now I'm thinking that she is gonna tell them about the key and I don't know... I kind of like the idea. Seems like it'll be a tough week.
Seems dangerously close to getting out of control, unless your happy for her to tell people
Update 4:
Today she joked about "leaving the key in the kitchen and her mom finding it, or lossing the key" don't know if it's true or not, but it was very mean by her (I liked it haha). She hasn't decided yet if she's gonna take the key to the trip. I guess I'll have to wait to wednesday to find out.
Today she joked about "leaving the key in the kitchen and her mom finding it, or lossing the key" don't know if it's true or not, but it was very mean by her (I liked it haha). She hasn't decided yet if she's gonna take the key to the trip. I guess I'll have to wait to wednesday to find out.
I think I find it hot, I don't know them, and I don't think I will in the future.
Be careful, once the genie is out the bottle there is no going back
The emegency/spare key could be kept in a box or holder secured by a numbered security tag, so that you can access it without her help, but you couldn’t do it without her knowing.
My lady and keyholder was once only my best friend, We discussed everything and she was aware I was self-locking nd I mentioned that having access to your keys even though I had mine stuck with tape to the underside of the second shelf in a public library an hours drive away, the second key was similarly placed in another library a bit further away. was not the same having someone else hold them and dictate their use. The following day she invited me to ask her to be my KH .. I asked ,, and she accepted,
Over time she became my Mistress too and subsequently my partner and then the F in our FLR.
I'm not saying you should or should not accept your friends offer but I did and 8 years later we are still together as a couple in a LDR which is also a FLR