A month ago I was talking to a friend and the conversation became more sexual till we started to share our kinks. To sum up I told her about chastity, that I have 2 cages and that I cage my self. I saw her very into it, she asked me for some resourses to read. These days she continuously ask me about it, if I am locked, sometimes even jokes about it. I have a lockbox with the emergency key always in my car, and she knows the code, the other key I have it in my house. Yesterday I told her that I had 2 weeks without cumming and that I am having trouble not to unlock and she offered to have the other key. She told me that if there is an emergency she'll give me the code or send me the key. What should I do? We do not have anything affectionate, or sexual besides this dinamic. I do se her atractive, don't know if she feels the same. Should I just go with it and enjoy the time, or should I try something?
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I think it sounds very exciting. If you have absolute trust in each other, I would say go for it.
Does she want to see the device, or lock you herself?
Does she want to see the device, or lock you herself?
It is all a question of trust. If you trust her, I see no reason why not.
Never self locked, always had my wife as my kh. If you have a chance to have someone take keys who's willing and trustworthy why not go for it. Only thing I see could be problematic is all your attention will be focused on her and if she is ready, realizes that.
I'd say go for it! What sort of cage is it? Having a KH not your partner isn't that common but it's not unknown either. Look at @Tamed again who is expecting something like this als.
And for resources, if you've not already done so I'd give her the links to some of the quality devices: Lori, Badass,, MatureMetal and maybe the full belts
like Neosteel, MySteel. and (in case they resume) Tollyboy.
She may well have someone else she'd like to lock, either now or down the line.
I'd do it, but I'd keep the spare key. Keep it at home, or at work, or somewhere else. She can have the "primary" key, but while you're still in the 'this might be fun, lets see where this goes' stage I would make sure I was covered in case of emergency, etc.
If you do that it won't be the real thing. But if you are genuinely unsure you could secure the spare in a kitchensafe making it inaccessible till the timer runs out.
But it seems to me this is pussyfooting. Her offer has all the hallmarks of a new adventure; and nothing ventured, nothing gained. You never know down what paths this will lead you.
Or you could suggest a time period of a fortnight or whatever, or maybe subject to a week's notice or something.
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Holding a spare to start is good idea. Let's not start with what's real and what's not. If you're caged it's real.
I think that you need an emergency key with you 24/7. Dangerous...
It all depends on your POV. The issue you raised is that with a key you find it difficult to restrain yourself from using it. This will still apply if you've a spare ready to hand. If you're keeping one in a lockbox to which only she has the code that looks like a fair compromise.
I agree. But you can keep an extra key in a box, sealed. You can use it in emergency case...
I think you've enough response to decide now. Let us know your choice and what happened! I'm sure we will be all ears.
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1. I'm from an Hispanic speaking country, so my English is not great.
2. We know chastity is not mainstream even less in my country, that's why I think she was so interested.
3. I have a metal cage that I purchased in Amazon with a string. 2 keys, 1 in my house ( the one that she wants) and 1 in a lockbox in my car ( she already knows the code, I don't, but if there is an emergency I'm sure she'll give it to me).
4. No, she has not seen the cage and hasn't asked to.
5. We joked about if I give her the key, she'll have the power of my masturbation or even if I go out with someone on a date.
To response some of the comments.
1. I'm from an Hispanic speaking country, so my English is not great.
2. We know chastity is not mainstream even less in my country, that's why I think she was so interested.
3. I have a metal cage that I purchased in Amazon with a string. 2 keys, 1 in my house ( the one that she wants) and 1 in a lockbox in my car ( she already knows the code, I don't, but if there is an emergency I'm sure she'll give it to me).
4. No, she has not seen the cage and hasn't asked to.
5. We joked about if I give her the key, she'll have the power of my masturbation or even if I go out with someone on a date.
It sounds interesting, I would be a bit dubious myself “it is very close to home” as the saying goes
Thanks.
1. i don't think it matters where you are from, but I have no problem with your English at all- it's perfectly good to me.
2. I also think that she being interested is a very good sign indeed. How long have you known her? I suspect it will have been some time since you can talk openly to her about these things. Has she told you of any kinks she has? You plainly trust her enough to have given her the code to the lockbox, so it looks to me you can trust her with the main key too. I'll wholly change your and her mindset.
3. The cheap Amazon cage you have is plainly good enough for now, though she may show interest in others in the future. If so it should be to something quality if affordable.
4. It doesn't matter IMO she's not seen the cage though if she has the other key she may well ask, even if only to see how it works and check it is actually locked on you! If she does ask I'd say show her but don't suggest this yourself.
5. Power is the essence and is an essenial element in a KH/wearer relationship, and power to control your masturbation is surely the whole idea. It'll do you good and help you keep your mind on other things. Do you know if she has a bf and if so would she be looking to lock him too? If she has or gets one she very well may. I would ask her. In fact in view of her interest in them I'd say she certainly will.
My inkling is to take things slowly and a bit at a time. Perhaps suggest a trial period of a month or so to see how it works out and review things then.
Meanwhile all best wishes and let us know how things go.
I've known her for 8 years, became friends 4 years ago probably. She's a friend from work, so I see her almost every day.
Update:
An hour ago I gave her the key, we agree that if I need the key I'll send an Uberbike to pick the key up to her house (don't know if you have that in your country). I can only ask for the key once a week and she'll have the last word about sending the key or not. We are gonna try it this first time until Monday to see how it goes. In terms of cleaning I am able to clean my penis through the bars so I guess the is no problem with that, we'll see. I'm very excited about this, I didn't say anything else because I don't wanna give her more work.
Update:
An hour ago I gave her the key, we agree that if I need the key I'll send an Uberbike to pick the key up to her house (don't know if you have that in your country). I can only ask for the key once a week and she'll have the last word about sending the key or not. We are gonna try it this first time until Monday to see how it goes. In terms of cleaning I am able to clean my penis through the bars so I guess the is no problem with that, we'll see. I'm very excited about this, I didn't say anything else because I don't wanna give her more work.
She just sent me this, Ive never been more excited in my life. You can use Google translate
Good for you. I’m happy for you. Who knows, maybe your relationship will grow closer.
It should work very well indeed. I'd say try not to ask for it athe key at all at first and see how long you can last out. Surely if you need the key urgently she can just send you the code for the lockbox and reset it later (e.g at work) to save the need for an Uberbike. (No, we don't have them where I am)
From the message in the text she sent you next I'd guess she is at least as excited as you are. Terrific! Maybe text her back occasionally perhaps right now and afterwards about every two days) just to say thanks. Perhaps another text after a few days that when you try and get hard (especially at night - send maybe Sunday 4 a.,m so she read when she wakes) that it grips you very hard and tight and you really feel the pressure especially on your testicles. No pix though. Everything left to her imagination. Just let her savour and enjoy the power it gives her: if she's anything like me she will find this a huge turn-on.
Then you should be off to an absolutely flying start. Till Monday is ideal for starters - you can go to longer periods later. One step at a time.
Best wishes
How did the first day go? Must have been a new experience seeing your KH at work first time since she became so. All best wishes.
Answering other questions:
She's single but seeing someone, like early dating. She lives like 20 minutes from my house so Uberbike won't be expensive.
Update 2:
I did ask for the key, just to see if she's into it and I can say for sure she is. She told me that I wasted my opportunity It was waaay to early to ask for the key and sent me a photo of her vibrator and say goodbay. Not gonna lie, this made my penis rock hard, well my cage. Next week is Holy Week so we won't work and see each other until April 21st, I know she's gonna go on vacation so I told her that maybe she send the key and I'll return it when I see her. She just laugh and say it is up to her, and she'll think about it.
She's single but seeing someone, like early dating. She lives like 20 minutes from my house so Uberbike won't be expensive.
Update 2:
I did ask for the key, just to see if she's into it and I can say for sure she is. She told me that I wasted my opportunity It was waaay to early to ask for the key and sent me a photo of her vibrator and say goodbay. Not gonna lie, this made my penis rock hard, well my cage. Next week is Holy Week so we won't work and see each other until April 21st, I know she's gonna go on vacation so I told her that maybe she send the key and I'll return it when I see her. She just laugh and say it is up to her, and she'll think about it.
Ace. interesting she is dating, so likely she'll want to lock him too.
Re key, I'd say best she keep it for now as in real emergercy she can send code to lockbox.