A little correction, she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's going on dates with a guy, but not in a relationship. I'm not into CBT, neither does she I think
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So today you've now been locked for 4 weeks?
What's the longest time you've ever been locked, and does she know this?
She's unlikely to give you the key any earlier than this. She's more likely to push your boundaries by exceeding this milestone, especially as you say she loves the "physical break-in period" of 3 months.
Update 6:
I told her about the rule for sending me the key, the orgasm ratio (I know some of you told me It was a bad idea, but right now I'm not thinking with my head). At first she said yes, but later told that she's not generous and that she's gonna send the key when she wants, this is really fun to her, and she's having a blast.
I told her about the rule for sending me the key, the orgasm ratio (I know some of you told me It was a bad idea, but right now I'm not thinking with my head). At first she said yes, but later told that she's not generous and that she's gonna send the key when she wants, this is really fun to her, and she's having a blast.
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Has anyone said DON'T do this lol?! Just give 'er pal, otherwise you'll run out of hand lotion thinking about 'what if' the moment you unlock. Besides if it's a cheapo cage you can break the lock/cylinder/whatever easy peasy and if you can't someone here will tell you how. Have fun.
Any device can be defeated cheap or not with time and determination. You can't just say lock someone for a decade and assume they can't get out. That's the peak of foolishness. The one caged has to want to be so to some degree.
You remove the piercing and its off. Any screw head can be removed with a little time, a bench sander and piece of key stock. You keep giving advice on things you know nothing about acting as if you're an authority.
She's performing as an ideal keyholder. She shut down your suggested rule to allow you orgasms based on her orgasms. Only your keyholder creates the rules and decides your orgasms - you don't. She has read and understood the online guides for keyholders and she's implementing what she learnt. Ask her more about her kinks and what she enjoys about being your keyholder. Focus only on her, not on yourself or your own kinks. Ask her more about her desire for sexual dominance and tell her that this is an attractive quality. Give her confidence in what she's already doing as your keyholder and to take it further. Continue telling her how sexually frustrated you're feeling, as this seems to give her a feeling of success and power.
What is the longest continuous time that you've previously been locked without release?
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This is my longest locked time, 3 weeks, before I reached 2 weeks and a half with a previous gf but she wasn't as excited as my new KH is.
I have a cheap cage, but it really fits wonderful, no pain or discomfort, just a little anti-irritation cream and it's perfect for 24/7.
I don't think she wants to see it yet, Im not gonna push it.
Today the other friend we both know that went to the trip made a group called "jeje" (a slang for laughing) with me and my KH, I don't know why, they just say hi, and didn't respond back. I'm a little nervous.
This is my longest locked time, 3 weeks, before I reached 2 weeks and a half with a previous gf but she wasn't as excited as my new KH is.
I have a cheap cage, but it really fits wonderful, no pain or discomfort, just a little anti-irritation cream and it's perfect for 24/7.
I don't think she wants to see it yet, Im not gonna push it.
Today the other friend we both know that went to the trip made a group called "jeje" (a slang for laughing) with me and my KH, I don't know why, they just say hi, and didn't respond back. I'm a little nervous.
Please take any advice from jorosniece with a pinch of salt.
Joro has been weaving a fictional story.
Joro has been weaving a fictional story.
Does your KH know that she has already pushed your boundaries beyond your previous longest lockup? Is she still considering pushing you to three months?
Perhaps you could message your KH directly and ask what the group is about?
OP is a lucky guy. I didn't even know women like this existed!
I just told her, that this was my longest, She said She thought my longest was 2 months, I don't know if that is just a wink for what we are heading to, hope not.
They just want to go eat to celebrate our friend's birthday, but my mind goes crazy and create theories haha
She's asking if my longest locked time was 2 months. I told her that it was 2 weeks, and we are heading 3 now, then just laugh
You could ask her how long she is planning to keep you locked. She obviously won’t tell you the exact unlocking date, but she might tell you a range, like a minimum and maximum.
I guess I am, but it really just happened. She is a good friend, open minded and a dominant kink, that definitely helped.
Something I haven't seen asked. If things progress with guy she's dating. Where does that leave you? Just something to keep in mind.
I guess everything will have to end, I don't see myself still playing if she has a boyfriend.
Yes. Her keyholding is a sexual task, despite no sexual contact between you, so it's incompatible with her being in a relationship with a boyfriend. It's possible that she prefers being your keyholder over dating the other guy, especially after she revealed her dominant side. Perhaps ask her some questions to provoke a conversation such as:
- Will you continue to be my keyholder if things become more serious between you and the guy you're dating? (This question might prompt her to reveal whether she has serious intentions with the other guy)
- Do you now enjoy keyholding so much that you would like to lock any future boyfriend in chastity? (This question might prompt her to reveal whether she could ever consider you as a potential boyfriend)
That's why I mention it. I'd have fun with it but wouldn't get too invested in it emotionally in case that does happen. Spare yourself some hurt feelings. Most guys tend to frown on women they're with sending another guy provocative pictures and controlling his orgasms.
Well I actually do know what I’m taking about. A titanium PA BAR of two gauge or larger cannot be ground off. You can’t sufficiently control the heat. If you refute this go buy a two gauge barbell and hold it between your thumb and fore finger while you grind it off. Please video tape this with your timer showing. After that effort fails take a bolt cutter and shear it (this will work) then put the sharp side of the sheared in inside your mouth. Tighten your lips and pull the pin out fast or slow while you imagine the damage is happening to your urethra instead of your lips. By the way the screw head on mine is protected be thick deep loose washer.
I clearly said remove the piercing. I've had multiple genital piercings. All were fairly easy removable. Any locking mechanism is fairly easily defeated with some time and determination. I know people love the inescapable chasity idea, it's just that though. An idea, a fantasy.
Remove how? I told you the two ways to remove this. Neither is damage free to your body. At the hospital I would choose bolt cutters and lidocaine. I have lots of tools and older PA pins from earlier devices I’ve experimented plenty inescapable NO. Escapable without blood? I don’t think so.
So you admit anyone with a hardware store nearby can buy bolt cutters, problem solved right? So again not inescapable or permanent.
In fact i remember right your cage comes off about weekly. Can't be that much of an ordeal to take off even with that aforementioned washer