Is chastity meant to prevent male orgasms

Though many of us are implimenting chastity as an aspect of a BDSM lifestyle, by the actual definition (from dictionary.com and websters.com) - the answer to the question in your subject line, in short is: No, that is not what chastity means. Chastity | chas·ti·ty - noun | ˈCHastədē/
1) The state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse. 2) The quality or state of being chaste : such as abstention from unlawful sexual intercourse or abstention from all sexual intercourse

Based on what you wrote, I think you're looking at chastity as a part of a training regimen - and FWIW, I personally find that to be an extremely exciting form for a woman to assert her Dominance and enforce her authority in a relationship. However, as mentioned above, it is not really what "chastity" is about. Perhaps looking for the terms of "chastity training" or "enforced chastity" might help prevent misunderstanding about how many people who discuss chastity are not participating in the kind of orgasm denial that you find beneficial to your relationships.

Please see the above actual definition of chastity.

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FWIW, I found this to be a great discussion and really a nice peek behind the scenes about how many different little ways we live our lifestyles. As mentioned directly (and indirectly) by several others, I think it is valuable that we do not ever approach our sexuality from a mindset of right and wrong, and that it is even more critical that we do not tell others that what they do is right or wrong. I believe that we have no right to should on other people's lives.

On a personal note, my Mistress has kept me locked (with a brief 32 hour break) for 6 weeks now. However, I have been allowed to masturbate to orgasm twice. I've been given a few ruined orgasms with her Hitachi against my cage. I have also been granted two prostate orgasms, and I believe I also was prostate milked. And we have had sex numerous times. So technically, though I'm wearing a chastity device almost 24/7, I'm not actually chaste by the definition of it.

And yet, here I am... locked upm and loving it.

 

For us it is definitely about orgasm denial. When I'm not in chastity I masturbate a lot -- several times a day, virtually every day -- and I make a point of letting my wife know about it. I often tell her I'm going to masturbate to some cuckold or femdom porn, or I tell her that I did, or sometimes I'll even try to do it in front of her.

She likes it a lot better when I'm locked up and denied, because I'm less annoying with my wanking all the time, and yes I'm also more attentive and more loving. And she doesn't particularly care if I ever get off. Our sex life is about her needs and her pleasure, and sometimes she allows me to masturbate after she has been pleasured. But my orgasm is almost never a part of our actual sex life. It's just something I do on my own when I can or when she allows.

Truth be told, I think I either consciously or sub-consciously try to wank to her annoyance, because I love it when she takes charge and locks me up. I would really like for this to evolve to be more like what some of the other folks here have described. Although I'll admit that I'm feeling quite desperate for release after a few weeks straight in chastity, I can only imagine how much more frustrated and aroused and especially attentive to her I would be if she kept me locked for many more weeks or months. I also would really like for her to use chastity to control and dominate me to a far greater extent than she currently does.

 

We started out playing with orgasm denial to add some variety in the bedroom and after a year or two this morphed into chastity devices. Starting off with a cb3k which I chose, my wife upgraded it to a steel Gerecke, finally a small MM JB which prevents erections. The device progession, increasingly small and restrictive reflected that the orgasm denial was becoming more serious and longer term for me. For us chastity is meant to aid the prevention of orgasms for me. Sex is me enjoying giving her orgasms orally, which I absolutely love doing. I love it when her orgasms are so intense that she can't stand it any longer and she pushes my head away. My penis is there but irrelevant. Today I was freed for sex but my wife avoided touching my penis at all with any part of her body, although her hands were in a lot of other places. After satisfying herself that my penis was dripping nicely, it was time to lock back up. When I asked her for the first time in ages what she thought of me locked up she said it was the norm and not something to really think about. I am certainly allowed to ask for "sex" (as above), which she rarely declines, but not to ask to be just teased for my benefit.

 

Our current journey into chastity resulted from a slightly different set of events that have an almost amusing twist. Although I've been aware of my submissive nature for >20 years, my wife has had little interest in the topic and my previous attempts to interest her have not been terribly successful. However, I am in a committed relationship and do love her, so I was willing to satiate my submissive side through fantasy.

However, recently one of my doctors discovered that I had a seriously low testosterone level and put me on daily supplementation. It has been remarkably successful and my libido has gone from nearly absent to "roaring!" This has resulted in my wife being caught somewhat unprepared for her old (>60) husband having become a randy old goat!

Since I'm now at a 1-2 day "interval" and her interest in sex is nowhere near that often, she was more interested in chastity rthis time than she'd ever been in the past. So we embarked on another chastity attempt and this one seems to be going well so far. What's important is that she's visibly "getting off" on my being caged and teased while locked. The fact that she can use the Hitachi to force me to a ruined release without any erection (it's definitely not a real orgasm) has been a definite turn-on for her.

I'm letting her progress slowly as her interests develop. She's basically a kind, caring person so acting in any kind of dominant role is contrary to her nature. My submissive fantasies, OTOH, can get pretty dark, but I want to go slowly with her so as not to turn her off. I'd much rather she develop whatever "scene" she is comfortable with.

More later......

 

Great start!

 

Very true! I would say 6 weeks minimum is essential!

 

For my wife and myself chastity goes hand and hand with orgasm denial.I completely agree with Mistress B.You truely don't get to the deep submission for at least a month or so of denial.
When it starts to become more about her than yourself you are finally beginning to get there.You'll know the feeling when you get it