Mine too but fuxkWith my current situation at least my balls get some action.
Thanks for the feedback! Yeah I think I will suggest that and then double from there, which is doable, considering my longest is 16 days. Thanks man!I read that 90 day stuff when we first started. To me it's too much too fast. I couldn't have done it. We gradually work up seems more reasonable. It does get easier with time. I still have wtf am I doing days but more often then not it's normal and I take for granted being caged is the exception not the rule. Maybe talk with her about a month a start or some of sort of compromise.
Thanks! Yeah we are about 10 days in and my Wife/KH is ADAMANT about the cage not coming off at all..."like it says", so yeah none of that shit for meWhen I first got into it, there was the kink aspect. Then it got hard (no pun intended) to think of a week or so at a time. Then my wife was on board for the 90-day challenge (no orgasm, at first there was some being let out for play time) so we did that! It was a mindblowing experience and I'm happy to do it again if she wants. You get used to it, craving the denial and delicious accumulated sexual energy...while also craving an orgasm (especially when excruciatingly teased and then it stops when you are oh so close and you know it will be a while until you feel that again). It's so mind bending, and a lot of fun!
For the WIN!Maybe talk with her about a month a start or some of sort of compromise.
Glad it worked out. I can see how that's a big commitment on both sides. Your willingness to go back in the cage surely helps, I've never had a problem with that either. Being teased and not locked and forgotten will definitely help. We maybe one's in cages but we have a voice as in any consensual relationship.For the WIN!
She totally went for the month compromise! She was totally anxious about the complete no-touching part for the 90, just like I was. Wow!
So she said since we are on day 8 of non-touching fun, we can simply do a month of orgasm denial, but with regular PIV teasing and edging and back in.
She said because I have absolutely no problem going back into the cage even after full O's, she is ok with us taking him out when she is ready!
I told her if she wants to do long term denial, but with regular teasing and edging at our disposal, I wouldnt mind waiting until our anniversary over Labor Day weekend, and she gave a giggle and a nose tweak and went off to the bath
Compromise!!
Practice.I fail to see how y'all don't just fall into a state of depression over this shit. It's hard AF
Fantastic post! Thank you for sharing! It sounds like you have a real intimate relationship growing on and I dig it. She and i are similarly intimate.Maybe I should keep my mouth shut. Oh well.
It depends on preference, libido, pride, commitment, and guilt, IMHO.
We started in earnest for our second go ‘round in October 2020, after a 5 year hiatus from a poor attempt. I’ve had exactly two orgasms since - the first after two months and the last one 2.5 years ago.
Preference? I’m submissive, and deeply so. If I’m really honest, being denied is what my submissive soul needs. The feeling of being denied is preferable to the fleeting pleasure of an orgasm. Perhaps it’s similar to craving SPH.
Libido? Meh. I want an orgasm, I guess. I haven’t had PIV in so long that I can’t really get worked up about missing it or “needing” it.
Pride? I could pull out and beat off, but then I couldn’t type on here “2.5 years ago”.
Commitment? I owe my Wife A LOT. I’m going to do what we agreed I would do. Or not do.
Guilt? I owe Her so much. I was a real jerk of a depressed masturbating husband, awful to be around. Chastity is payback as well as part of our FLR.
Everyone is different, that’s for sure!
Peace!
Yes man! This is an awesome thing you two have going. Congrats! We are so very lucky to have partners who are willing to help us rid ourselves of our masturbatory habits! Similarly, my Wife/KH has gotten completely rid of any middle of the night masturbating or early morning masturbating that I used to engage in very frequently, totally away. I could not be happier!Much of our chastity journey is about me masturbating behind her back. Looking back I don't know how I thought it was ok... until it we realised it was affecting US. It's history now as are my erections and orgasms mostly. There is a serious punishment element to my chastity enforcement. I've had way too many throw-away orgasms before chastity and now they're gone I'm always available to worship my mistress and she's finding that's to her satisfaction. She's continuing to help with my masturbation habit and I get to be her slave. Almost seems fair but she subjects me to other punishments just to get the point home.
Then we committed to 90 days of absolute orgasm denial for me. That was our trial.
We stuck to that commitment and learned a lot on the day. I went 94 days without any orgasm. Ruined and full. I had none.