I’m not really sure how to start this thread other than simply saying how much chastity has changed my life in the last few months.
It all began when I came across the chastitytraining subreddit and someone had posted this article:
https://www.independent.co.uk/voice...elationship-sexuality-penis-a8600906.html?amp
The more I read the more I became curious, aroused, and amazed about the experience. I have always been a sexual person, masturbate frequently, and never really felt satisfied no matter how many times I orgasmed or experienced whatever new kink I was playing with. This was different. Just reading about it made me feel like it was made for me, I have always been a more dominant partner, but the idea of being submissive and locked up by my wife brought my feelings to a whole other level. I stewed on the article and re read it multiple times and decided I would bring it up to my wife. I was very nervous as we are a pretty standard vanilla couple and I wasn’t sure how she would receive it. As a bit of a back story, my sex drive is much higher than hers, and my constant pressure sexually(like literally every night) made things difficult at times for us. She would feel the sex pressure, I would feel rejected or frustrated too, and I would masturbate as a result. I love her more than I can put into words and even admitting that I was masturbating makes me sick because I know how it makes her feel. But that kind of explains how powerful these sexual urges of mine were. At the end of the day though I know these were my choices and I pay the consequences.
So we talked. We talked about things we havent been open about before (my masturbation habits, me feeling out of control, her feeling used or disconnected when I ask for sex, ect.) And I told her about this article and about chastity. Probably the most nervous I’ve ever been talking to her about something. But she received it better than I could have imagined.
She agreed about how masturbation caused so many issues with us, and we decided to give chastity a try for two weeks. I wish I would have started this journal then , but basically I would wear the device any time u was home and take it off/put it on before/after work. The change in myself was so amazing. I began to act how I’ve wanted to act for a long time but it was like I was blocked out by not being able to refrain sexually. I cleaned, did chores, made coffee for my wife, went out of my way to do things and pick things up after work before I came home, you name it I was doing it and I was feeling so much love and arousal while doing it. I had one accident where I came in my cage and we talked about it and also one day where I was upset and took the cage off. We talked and I was instructed that wasn’t my decision to make (unless we talked and I told her I wanted to stop). Onthis day I was horny and did not respond well to her not being in the mood so I took it off without telling her when I was upset.
anyways our trial run ended when we went to visit family for the holidays, I was super self conscious about people seeing the cage even though I know most people can’t tell. So we agreed to stop. And it was like the switch turned back off and I felt like my old frustrated , emotionally out of control self. We were still doing chastity by the “honor code” but it didn’t feel the same. I was begging for release and one day she gave me a hand job which I enjoyed but I missed the cage.
So we got home and a few weeks went by and we talked and she said that she doesn’t want me to have to be in a cage forever and that we should try no cage for a couple weeks, so we did. I will say that I think her thoughts on this are solely out of concern for me , not that the idea of doing the long term thing turns her off or something. One day I was in bed alone and she was downstairs and I masturbated. I felt guilty and didn’t tell her at the time but the other day I told her the truth about what happened and basically told her that I crave being back in the cage and how it helps me. She was disappointed that I masturbate but forgave me. The next morning she ordered me a new cage. The one I’ve been using is a little big. I’m wearing that one now until the new one comes, but this is day 2 of my new lockup. I take it off when I go to work but I can’t wait to put it on when I get home. The feelings of submissiveness is impossible for me to describe. I gave her a foot rub last night and I feel constantly aroused and in love with her like we are dating again. We have ongoing good open conversations about chastity and our relationship and I feel so good that she has been willing to try this. She instructed me that this time she doesn’t want me asking for anything, sex, hand job, oral service for her, ect. We talked and she wants Friday nights to be our time slot for play each week and that time is not a guarantee for anything but simply a time that it would happen if it does. If she feels in the mood for anything at any other time she said she will let me know.
anyways I have a lot more to share but I thought I would start with this and see if there is any interest. at the least I would love to use this thread as an outlet for me to diary things instead of bugging her with things I’ve been instructed not to talk about and topping from the bottom. My days are constantly filled with thoughts of me submitting to her sexually and non sexually and I love having a place to share all of that .
It all began when I came across the chastitytraining subreddit and someone had posted this article:
https://www.independent.co.uk/voice...elationship-sexuality-penis-a8600906.html?amp
The more I read the more I became curious, aroused, and amazed about the experience. I have always been a sexual person, masturbate frequently, and never really felt satisfied no matter how many times I orgasmed or experienced whatever new kink I was playing with. This was different. Just reading about it made me feel like it was made for me, I have always been a more dominant partner, but the idea of being submissive and locked up by my wife brought my feelings to a whole other level. I stewed on the article and re read it multiple times and decided I would bring it up to my wife. I was very nervous as we are a pretty standard vanilla couple and I wasn’t sure how she would receive it. As a bit of a back story, my sex drive is much higher than hers, and my constant pressure sexually(like literally every night) made things difficult at times for us. She would feel the sex pressure, I would feel rejected or frustrated too, and I would masturbate as a result. I love her more than I can put into words and even admitting that I was masturbating makes me sick because I know how it makes her feel. But that kind of explains how powerful these sexual urges of mine were. At the end of the day though I know these were my choices and I pay the consequences.
So we talked. We talked about things we havent been open about before (my masturbation habits, me feeling out of control, her feeling used or disconnected when I ask for sex, ect.) And I told her about this article and about chastity. Probably the most nervous I’ve ever been talking to her about something. But she received it better than I could have imagined.
She agreed about how masturbation caused so many issues with us, and we decided to give chastity a try for two weeks. I wish I would have started this journal then , but basically I would wear the device any time u was home and take it off/put it on before/after work. The change in myself was so amazing. I began to act how I’ve wanted to act for a long time but it was like I was blocked out by not being able to refrain sexually. I cleaned, did chores, made coffee for my wife, went out of my way to do things and pick things up after work before I came home, you name it I was doing it and I was feeling so much love and arousal while doing it. I had one accident where I came in my cage and we talked about it and also one day where I was upset and took the cage off. We talked and I was instructed that wasn’t my decision to make (unless we talked and I told her I wanted to stop). Onthis day I was horny and did not respond well to her not being in the mood so I took it off without telling her when I was upset.
anyways our trial run ended when we went to visit family for the holidays, I was super self conscious about people seeing the cage even though I know most people can’t tell. So we agreed to stop. And it was like the switch turned back off and I felt like my old frustrated , emotionally out of control self. We were still doing chastity by the “honor code” but it didn’t feel the same. I was begging for release and one day she gave me a hand job which I enjoyed but I missed the cage.
So we got home and a few weeks went by and we talked and she said that she doesn’t want me to have to be in a cage forever and that we should try no cage for a couple weeks, so we did. I will say that I think her thoughts on this are solely out of concern for me , not that the idea of doing the long term thing turns her off or something. One day I was in bed alone and she was downstairs and I masturbated. I felt guilty and didn’t tell her at the time but the other day I told her the truth about what happened and basically told her that I crave being back in the cage and how it helps me. She was disappointed that I masturbate but forgave me. The next morning she ordered me a new cage. The one I’ve been using is a little big. I’m wearing that one now until the new one comes, but this is day 2 of my new lockup. I take it off when I go to work but I can’t wait to put it on when I get home. The feelings of submissiveness is impossible for me to describe. I gave her a foot rub last night and I feel constantly aroused and in love with her like we are dating again. We have ongoing good open conversations about chastity and our relationship and I feel so good that she has been willing to try this. She instructed me that this time she doesn’t want me asking for anything, sex, hand job, oral service for her, ect. We talked and she wants Friday nights to be our time slot for play each week and that time is not a guarantee for anything but simply a time that it would happen if it does. If she feels in the mood for anything at any other time she said she will let me know.
anyways I have a lot more to share but I thought I would start with this and see if there is any interest. at the least I would love to use this thread as an outlet for me to diary things instead of bugging her with things I’ve been instructed not to talk about and topping from the bottom. My days are constantly filled with thoughts of me submitting to her sexually and non sexually and I love having a place to share all of that .
