Deep breath. And... relax. Here goes

I’m pretty chill on at least the idea of this. I don’t have shame issues around nudity or my sexuality— it just doesn’t seem like that big a deal to me if people see my body, or know about my sex play (or preferences etc). I’ve told my wife she should feel free to talk to her friends if she wants — and I think it might be good for her — she’s mostly very private about sexual matters and I think sharing more would increase her confidence and comfort with her own sexuality. So, no experience with this because she doesn’t want to talk about me or us, or show me off (yet?), but I’m pretty sure I’d be fine with it. I don’t get the least worked up thinking about it.

 

(I just realized I’m contributing to hijacking @longtallsally’s journal — I’m sorry! It’s one thing to react to her stories and offer advice when sought, but we shouldn’t make he me journal a separate conversation on a particular topic)

 

Fascinating diary

 

It didn’t sound as if Laura’s offer had a fixed time limit on it. So, make sure it’s something both you and Pete want, agree, and set boundaries for how it would hypothetically play out. If (and only if) you feel comfortable would you continue the conversation between you and Laura. Maybe some CFNM (with both Pete and Paul caged) encounters could occur but that would be long before measuring.

However, things could easily go sideways. Pete or Paul or both could easily be embarrassed. Boundaries could be crossed. Relationships/friendships could be hurt. Or not. It could be an exciting fantasy but all of you need to be on the same page before turning fantasy into reality.

 

Same for me, I did the same mistake that cshorts and I will say no better in my poor english so "I just realized I’m contributing to hijacking @longtallsally’s journal — I’m sorry! It’s one thing to react to her stories and offer advice when sought, but we shouldn’t make he me journal a separate conversation on a particular topic)"

 

maybe it is time to employ the humbler…

 

It might be the best way to introduce meaningful discipline/humiliation fetish into the relationship.

It forces him to be on hand and knee, you can invite Laura or her man over to visit while he's locked. It will be entertaining for them and it will be privately exciting for Pete even if he won't admit it. Afterwards, you can let him out and he can join you all for some normal evening fun...drinks and dinner etc.

Also, it's completely safe and it will definitely dissuade him from playing with himself on his own. Also, if he STILL plays with himself after this, then you KNOW he wants to be put into the humbler again.

 

LOL it's safe as long as he stays in the humble position...

Maybe others on here can describe their experiences with the humbler and talk about safety.

 

Another possibility would be to redo what you did with the neighbor and you describe in your post of 22/05/2022.
This time your husband with the Humbler, with Laura instead of the neighbor, and making sure that Laura does not see him, as with the neighbor. Just to give him a strong emotion… it would be deliciously cruel

 

i think as guys we forget what the ladies give up to give us this lifestyle. I'm glad Sal has found a workable solution. I believe you guys are headed for a full time flr. It seems to me that Pete is perfectly ready. Oh well. everyone at their own pace.

 

Please stop with the humbler. It is a dangerous bondage device that would seem VERY out of place in this relationship...

 

Page 69.

Nice.

 

Is it?

 

Well you and my wife would agree. Although these days she is happy to spank me and order me to do some pretty humiliating things but I think the humbler would be too far. That said, if she wasn't disabled and could lock it on me, I'm not 100% sure she wouldn't start to get a kick out of that too.

Probably should count my lucky stars.

 

Of course it is. It is a device that locks the testicles dangerously stretched behind his legs and any abrupt movement forward would result in them being ripped from his body. In what world is that not dangerous? How you would suggest that here is beyond me. Not once has LTS show a propensity for advanced bondage nor pain. Some people need to stop living their fantasy on her blog...

 

Lovely post fun & exciting thank you for sharing, Tony

 

Well I’m n past the op has described having Père in various prone positions and the humbler puts him in such a position so that was my reasoning. Secondly, no one here suggested she should not do research into HOW to best use a bondage tool nor did we suggest she take it lightly.

Thirdly, these are two grown-ups who would buy such a device from learned intermediaries, perhaps attend seminars on how to use them, and look into them if they were interested.

Yes be careful with bondage.

 

Is the Humbler more dangerous than some of the chastity devices discussed on here? Or more than spanking or other fetish play on here? It’s higher up there sure.

Obviously it’s a serious piece of equipment with consequences. Welcome to the Mansion which is FULL of serious stuff.

you COULD have said, “the humbler is a serious and risky piece of equipment and it is important to train on how to use it before jumping into that. Be really careful with that.”

And that would be useful. And I would
Be right there with you. But does the op strike you as an incautious individual?


Are you also going to chastise everyone on here for getting a piercing? Or using sounds? They all have high risks.

Yes there is inherent risk in stuff suggested here. In that you are correct. Obviously.


Alternatively, and because safety is clearly an important consideration (thank you for that), there are less risky bondage devices that could achieve the same desired effect.

For example a spreader bar with ankle cuffs is relatively safe by comparison. That would keep the sun prone and helpless while not risking the balls but keeping them exposed.

 

Hand on heart, I've had more pain and I think more risk of long term injury from chastity devices than a humbler. Each to their own and may not be Sal and HerPete's thing, and certainly sounds like it's not yours, but it's not quite the terrible picture you paint.